Is it men or is it me?

I am 28 and a blk female. I look very nice not a size 5 but average and i am a pretty good person. I cook and clean. i have a decent paying job and i am a college graduate. I am also currently furthering my education. Yea I have two children and i own my home and got a nice ride. Are guys intimidated by me? I can't seem to find a decent man. My husband was abusive and an alcoholic so out the door he went. Then every guy i meet is either a dog a married dog or lazy. I dont need a dime but I just can't seem to even get a decent nickel. a lot of women these days tend to not be the marrying type but for the ones who are, why do men just dog them out so bad? Is it too much to want a decent man...