Men How Important Is ?

Ok, men let's say you are 40 years old. You never really had a good life due to ual issues you have (ED). In fact, due to it you fear trying to be intimate with a woman. You meet a woman you like, but the fear of ED when trying to get with her prevents you from seeing her. You get married, go on with your dull life, basically fulfill yourself through masturbation as it is hard for you to obtain an with the wife. You love her, but the issues you have and that the is not very good makes masturbation your preferred method. Then the woman comes back into your life, its wrong, but you have wanted her all these years, so you go to a hotel with her even though you are still scared of the ED occurring. She is amazing in the bed. No ED with her! It is the best you have ever had. She wants you to leave your wife for her, but you don't. So, she writes a letter telling your wife about the affair, because she wants you to make a final choice. If the wife knows, she knows the wife will put an end to it. She even tells the wife you do not have ED when with her. You choose to stay with your wife and promise you will not cheat again. However; you cannot get her out of your mind. You feel depressed that the is over. The ED which the dr says is mental is worse which is fine as the wife doesnt want sex anyway. The woman is willing to rekindle things. Given this scenario men, is sex important enough that you would forgive the woman and get back together with her or would you just go back to thinking of her and masturbating?